1/20/19 - Family Letter to Emma
thank you for serving a mission. i have been feeling the blessings!!!!!!!!!
COLDS ARE THE WORST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i have a small cold but its been bugging me like a BIG FAT BEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I MISS YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
how is it going there?
LOVE and MISS Mari
Sweet Emma,
I hope your week went well. Claudia sent us a photo. She said they
drove you...or picked you up or something? Google translate is always
interesting. Anyway, you look great...beautiful as ever! We mailed
Silvia's package. I hope it doesn't get stuck in
customs. I will send you a pic of what we sent. (I had to take a few
Reeses PB Cups out because of weight but otherwise, it's all there.
We babysat Rocky and Duncan overnight. They left a few hours ago. I am
exhausted! I must be really out of practice! I didn't have hardly
anything for them to play with so we played with an empty milk jug and
toilet paper roll. (As pitiful as it sounds,
they actually liked it!) I didn't have the energy to pull all the toys
out of the garage. Rocky is still a picky eater but Duncan is a
bottomless pit. That kid eats everything....and thus, a lot of
pooping. TMI!
Not much happened this week. No big events, but Grandma Charlene and I
had another breakthrough. She took me out to lunch at a great new Asian
Cafe (Zao) in the District. It's set up like Costa Vida but it's Asian
(curry rice bowls, Asian tacos, Bah Mi Sandwiches)
Anyways, she asked me what she could do to be a better mom. Somehow, I
felt like I could be completely honest with her. (I've always been too
afraid to speak my true feelings because she takes it so hard and I have
to end up consoling her...it was too much
work) BUT, I told her directly. I told her that I need her to be
emotionally self-sufficient and not lean on me or my siblings for
psychological counseling. I also told her a few other things that had
been weighing on my mind. I spoke with kindness, but
directness. I was so surprised when she just sat there and listened.
She did not get offended. She apologized! She told me she appreciated
my honesty and courage in telling her. She said she understands because
she deals with the same feelings with her
mom. She told me she is on some medication (which makes her shake a
little but seems to be helping her be more rational with the world).
She is also doing more meditation. She also has discovered a mentor in
her step-mom, Wanda. She said that she has never
known how to be a mom to teenagers or grown children. Wanda has been
guiding her. I couldn't believe how a weight was lifted off of my
shoulders. It was glorious! As I drove away from that lunch, I
realized that this breakthrough was another blessing of
you serving a mission. I thank you with all of my heart!
Mari is taking voice with Marilee Wilson. She is such a great teacher!
Hyrum is going in for his first counseling session this week. He will
be going to LDS Family Services. His medication seems to be working
will. Also, Hyrum did great at his church basketball
game. He even scored! Hyrum and Dad went with Keith and Jacob to a UVU
basketball game. Hyrum and Jacob got to do a foul-shot competition.
They tied with each other and both won the prize pack! Hyrum is all
decked out in UVU green. The more I learn about
UVU, the more I'm impressed! It seems like a great school! Have you
decided where you might want to go when you get back? Have you had any
other thoughts about what you might want to study? Also, who is this
Matthew Langford? I guess Dad is helping him
try to get a job at Fidelity?
Another friend from your mission, Brooke Bodhaine, messaged me. She
said, "Hello, I just wanted to tell you how much I LOVE your daughter
after seeing those cute pictures. She is such a light and I am so proud
of her, I wish I was there to hear her Portuguese
now. I was her Sister Training Leader and I was able to go on splits
with her. She has such an amazing attitude and she is such a hard
worker. I just wanted to share with y'all. I miss my Sister Barlow!"
She told me she is going to school in Provo. I
invited her to come for a visit if she is ever in the area. She said
she would love to come.
It sure is fun to meet people you have served...or met while there! The world seems so small sometimes!
Dad and I went to the Temple on Friday. WOW! You will LOVE the
changes! I can't wait for you to go! When will you have the
opportunity to attend the Temple next? Also, if you ever hear your
release date, please let us know so we can see if coming to pick
you up is possible or not. We found some cheap airfare to Sao
Paulo....so we know it exists.
Cousin Sami is here right now. She says to tell you "hello". Did you
ever get Kade's birthday gift to him? Cousins are the best! Cousin
Lauren is so excited about serving a mission. I think she will just do a
semester at school before her mission. Luke
Chandler has his mission papers and is working on them. I think cousin
Erik will be serving a mission soon too...but we haven't seen him or
Ethan in a very long time. It seems like they are always with their
friends instead of family. Grandma and Grandpa's
kitchen if very beautiful. Grandma was going to send you a picture
when it was completely finished. She's just decorating it right now.
Anyway, I hope you have a wonderful week. Your name is in the temple and many people are praying for you. We love you so much!
Sending a HUGE HUG...and a a shoulder rub!
I love my Emma!
💜Mom
Hey Emma!
How are you doing?
Everything is normal here, but life is fun.
I played with some dogs, and an Ice King giant
brought an "Eternal winter" in one of my games.
Love you
Hyrum
M,
It is great to hear about your success in the field. Try to stay humble
and remember without a lot of things going right for you the work
struggles. Keep working on what you can control and everything will be
great. With that said . . . I did smile when
you mentioned your atta boy. Stay humble but soak in the praise when
you can. When you inevitability struggle it is nice to remember you are
not the problem. Sometimes it takes hard work. Mari did not make
callbacks for Matilda and we are all a little
relieved. She is excited about her voice lessons. She was fine with
not making callbacks.
This week has been all basketball for me. They finally found someone to
replace me but it will be a few weeks before he can take over. The
Stake Mens committee lost all of their members so I have been helping
out on Thursday nights. It has worked out fine
because Mom has had Stake meeting every Thursday night. We both put in
a few hours at the Stake center and get home about the same time. We
supported 3 games on Thursday night. Friday night I took Mom and Eve
to watch RHS basketball play Taylorsville at
Taylorsville. It was fun being in the high school and I bored Eve with
all the memories I poured on her. The Chandlers are rarely home during
basketball season so I go watch high school basketball games and some
ministering in. We went and watched the JV
and Varsity play. Luke plays Varsity and Kyle plays JV. They both
won. I get a little lippy with the JV refs. For the most part they are
not good. The refs for the Varsity game are normally great. I have a
thing I have been yelling all year and it has
become a tradition of sorts. When the ref makes a bad call I yell "You
get one bad call a quarter ref. That was it. You don't get anymore" I
do it in my normal way and everyone including the players hear it. If
the make a bad call I remind them that they
already hit their quota. On Saturday morning we had all the Stake YM
games, a total of 6. They went well. I ended up reffing 3 of them.
One of them was for Mindi Meadows Deacons and Luke and Kyle both came
and were very loud in their support. I was the
only ref so I was missing a lot of calls when Luke screamed, "Ben, you
only get one bad call a quarter. That was it. You don't get anymore".
I stopped the game and said "I will 'T' up (call a technical foul) and
you and your whole family." I think Luke
was waiting for an opportunity to use that against me. The little
turd. Saturday night Hyrum and I were invited to go watch a UVU
basketball game. Adam and Blakely work for UVU sports marketing and are
heavily involved in all things sports at the school.
I have had a lot of basketball at this point but time with the Levers
is time with the Levers. We had to go very early to help Adam with
Grayson so we had some time on our hands when we got there. Hyrum and
Jacob were asked to participate in a free throw
contest during one of the commercial breaks. They shot at opposite
basketballs on the court and were given 30 seconds to make as many shots
as they could. Just earlier in the day Hyrum had a chance to win the
Teachers basketball game with a few free throws.
He missed both so his confidence was not too high. Hyrum is a
fantastic rebounder and is a good shot within 5-7 feet of the basket.
The free throw line is 12 feet away. He made one shot early but missed
all the others. that was OK because Jacob doesn't
make a lot a free throw either. He made a basket at the end and they
tied. They both were getting a prize either way for participating.
Hyrum got a really cool hat and Cob got a t shirt. They both also got a
t shirt that Adam designed for a Institute tailgate.
Overall the weekend consisted of 12 basketball games and I'm beat. I
think next week I will be able to hand off more of the stake duties so
it should get a lot easier.
We just had Rocky and Duncan overnight and found out we are out of young
child parenting shape. It took a toll on each of us but your Mom did
most of the heavy lifting. I got church duty. I was able to get Duncan
asleep and remember how hot babies are in
a suit. It was a lot of fun to have them over and attempt to
create memories but it was a good reminder that the current family stage
we are in is the best stage. I sometimes think how fun you all were
when you were little but I don't think I could go
back.
Proud of you kid. Keep up the good work. We need a firm date as to
when you are done with the mission. We are considering coming to get
you but we need to know what date to plan around. The Bishop shows a
date in September. We will use that date unless
we hear different from you.
Love
Dad
1 Peter 11:18-19
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